Tuesday, January 15, 2013
#10—Kindness Isn't Always Easy or Fun
#10— Kindness Isn't Always Easy or Fun
Have you missed me? Sometimes a glitch in life can throw off the best of plans. I will try to get caught up on a few expressions of love and kindness in the next few days, so I can hopefully end the month well.
This past Friday, my husband, my 18-year old daughter, and I visited a dear neighbor in the hospital. Over the past few years as our neighbor, he has touched my whole family and earned a special place in our hearts. As we approached the hospital, we met a mutual friend in the parking lot, and she warned us, "If I did not know it was supposed to be him in the bed, I would not have recognized him." This statement is very similar to one I made to my husband a couple of weeks ago, but I knew his condition had deteriorated even more rapidly since then.
Sometimes expressing love and kindness to someone who really needs—and wants—it can be difficult. Yet, that's where we were on Friday. This dear man did not look like or respond the way we had become accustomed to seeing him. Even so, he was the same worthy man that deserved to be reminded that he was loved and appreciated. A person's outer appearance or physical condition does not determine his or her worthiness. We were there for him. We were there to hold his hand and remind him that he was loved. Despite our intentions, we realistically knew that we may not receive any indication from him that he appreciated or understood our presence. However, for one brief moment, he had complete clarity as he looked at us and clearly expressed words of thankfulness.
We left him after a very short time, because we did not want him to keep working hard to try to be conscious for us. At the last minute, we stopped at McDonald's for a drink (and a snack for one of us) before going home. While there, we received a message that the hospital had begun preparing him for I.C.U. and had called in his family. We thanked God that he allowed us to visit when we did, so we could have, what would mostly likely be, our last visit with our neighbor.
Expressing love and kindness is not always easy or fun, but it is worth doing. Both you and the recipient will be rewarded.